Comfort Zone or a Fear of Change?

Lets start with my poetic thoughts about Comfort Zone…

Finally, one day she left her happy place to explore the colors of the outer space…

She knew somehow that she was prepared to differentiate between the colors that the outer world has to share…

 Aware of the fact that colors can be both white and black she espoused the ones which fancied her eye and ostracized the remaining behind…

After collecting the selected ones, she started painting the canvas of her life…

Some added shine to her work and proved to be right but some flawed the portrait that was being designed…

The wrong choice of colors did disappoint her. But she moved on with a hope that one day she will make a picture that will not only soothe the eye but will illustrate both her bright and gloomy side…….MUSKAN

For those who are trying to Google this poetry up let me tell you this is handwritten by none other than me😂.

Hello people! Hoping that quarantine is treating you just fine. From wherever you are reading this whether it be your home or your office, situations around you might not be that harsh and you are being treated with all the love that you deserve.

What is comfort zone?

So, as I have made it clear from the poetry that I have written above the topic that I’ll be talking about today is our “happy place” or as people fondly say our “comfort zone”.

The cliche quotes below are familiar to all of us

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”

“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.”

The idea that fear holds us back, prevents us from going after our goals. Hinders us from meeting new people, stops us from going out into the world, where different colors are waiting for us is something, we all know well.

The question is, what is stopping us from going out? from getting hurt and then healing, falling down and getting up? The answer to it, is our comfort zone. Described as protective space that we have made around us to save ourselves and to prevent ourselves from doing what scares us. Even when we know that the results tend to outweigh the fears, we know that our fears are often unfounded.

Our Comfort Cage

So, what is it that’s holding us back? Why are we not able to get out of this cage that we have built for ourselves and fondly call it as our happy space? Humans, a very complicated species. We go around shouting that we need to live an outrageous life, we are bored of the normal and want a life full of thrill. We want things to keep changing and evolving.

However, the reality is, we fear change. The only thing for which we have been working so hard is ‘stability’. Comfort zone is like a warm familiar embrace which can be both encouraging and confining. Comfort zones are where we feel most confident, and, often, least challenged. We have a way of clinging to them, even when they no longer serve us.

When met with a new situation that brings us fear, we stay put in our comfort zone.As for me I myself am a classic introvert and hence very much familiar with this protective cloud thing.

However, it’s high time, we need to understand that “Acknowledging and wisely deciding when to embrace and break through boundaries is critical to career and life successes.“

 Why we like to be in our comfort zone?

There are many things that I fear to do but I’ll be sharing one. Being an introvert, I get to hear stuff like ‘why don’t you go out and meet people?’, ‘why are you so afraid of trying new things?’ and so on.

The reason is I am afraid. Meeting new people is a concept that I love to read about in books, think about it in my head, like to write about it. But when it comes to actually doing, it feels like my conscience leaves my body and holds me tight asking not to move ahead. Now you might be thinking why am I afraid of it? The reason is according to me the more people you let into your life, the more that can just walk right out.

Like this you guys might also have many things that you are hesitant to do and hence try to stay away from all the fear and hurt but don’t you guys know that the more you fear the more that thing will haunt you and trouble you all your life. 

Face whatever comes in your way

Let me share a story with you guys which I know you all might have heard but just want to repeat-

“Where a person is aware that he is going to die but to save himself from his fate he confines himself into a room away from every man jack outside. However, a picture in his room falls on his head and he dies. ”

The moral of the story is you can’t hide from anything, things that are bound to happen will occur. So its better instead of hiding we should face it and try to turn it according to our benefit.

Leave your Comfort zone

I won’t say that staying in one’s comfort zone is a bad thing because it tends to nurture so many emotions inside us. Like we tend to remain more confident and it limits anxiety, familiar activities tend to be less risky than unknown ones. It helps to provide us the rejuvenation that we need after pushing ourselves out from our typical boundaries and many more like these.

But no matter how many convincing reasons there are to spend time in your comfort zone, we need to understand that it’s important to leave at a certain time. Because

“Kahin pe pahunchne ke liye kahin se nikalna bhaut zaruri hota hai. Sahi waqt pe kat Lena Chahiye, Nahi tow gile shiqwe hone lagte hain”- Ranbir Kapoor.

Let me tell you a secret, if you meet me. In person I ain’t that positive, in fact this whole thing of being positive and spreading the same around was something I never thought of. But I decided to move out of my comfort zone and hence started writing these blogs with a hope of spreading positivity around.

What you loose when you stay in Comfort Zone

So, allow me to show you the side where being in comfort zones can make you miss a lot of good things in your life.

Less growth opportunities

When you stay in your comfort zone for long it can make you smug. If you don’t perform activities that will challenge you, somewhat scare you, you miss out on growth opportunities. In short you can’t make progress if you remain still, confined in your cage.

No risk, no reward

“To get profit without risk, experience without danger, and reward without work, is as impossible as it is to live without being born.”

If you don’t try something new, you won’t succeed at anything new. Big rewards come to those willing to take risks, even if they aren’t large ones.

No new skills learnt

When you keep doing a certain thing again and again, no doubt you will become a pro in it. And also, it will lift your confidence up and will consume less energy from you. But, what you will miss is the chance to develop new skills. In taking on risks, you work on new skills and spend time improving relative weaknesses.

Enlarged comfort zone

The most important reason that you can give yourself while asking it to push its boundaries is to stretch your comfort zone.

When you take risks, embrace some discomfort and doubt, and succeed, you not only improve your overall skill set, but you boost your confidence. The more you try challenging activities, the more normal those tasks become, broadening your comfort zone.

Concluding it, I would like to say it’s good to be in a protective zone because the world out there is strange enough. But the most important thing is, you must learn to balance time in and outside of it. For personal growth it’s necessary to take risks and ensure some. Don’t fear change, allow it to enter your life and upgrade it. ❤️❤️

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